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5 Tips To Make Moving Out Of Your Ex’s Apartment A Little Easier

Monday, August 8, 2016


As your relationship gets more and more serious, it’s only natural that moving in together is a step you may take—and a pretty serious step at that. While many relationships may crumble, some may be at their best after you take the plunge to move in together.

For relationships that don’t work out, breaking up can be a lot more complicated if you’ve been living together. Even though you may want to run back to your apartment and never see your boyfriend ever again, you can’t… because your apartment is your ex’s, too.

When couples that live together break up, there are loose ends to tie up: finishing the last payments on bills, making sure that all their belongings are gone, and squaring up with security deposits. The list goes on.

I’ll be honest: it’s not easy. A few months back, my partner and I split up and he moved out of my place. Things were easier for me because I didn’t have to move my stuff out. He was left with the burden of having to gather all his belongings and move out.

It was hard watching him pack up his stuff. I felt bad that I was making him rearrange his entire life. I felt bad that he’d have to find somewhere else to call home. So many times during his move out, I wanted to forget all the messed up things he did to me and just forget this whole breakup idea.

Because, yes, there were times when I was sympathetic towards him, but we also had a ton of fights. His schedule was hard to work with and I didn’t want him there when I wasn’t home. We fought about who would keep certain things. I had to watch him throw out things that were once incredibly important to us.

Throughout the entire process of us heading our separate ways, I learned a lot about how things could have been a lot easier and more painless.

1. Set a move-out schedule.

One of the hardest things about the move-out situation was that we had separate schedules, so we had a hard time coordinating when he would move his things out. Instead of him texting me multiple times a day asking when he could come by for his things, I wish we had sat down in the beginning and laid out the times and days when the move-out would take place. If we’d done this, we would have fought a lot less.

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To the Girl Who Falls Too Hard, Too Fast

Friday, August 5, 2016



To the girl who falls too hard, too fast, you're not the problem.

That's the first thing I want you to know. The way you love is not your fault. Some people would kill to love the way you do: fully, with all your heart.

I'm sure that you've been in this situation one (or five) too many times: You meet someone, you're telling yourself not to take things too seriously because you've been hurt too many times in the past. You end up spending a ton of time with this person. He seems to be just as into you as you are him. You aren't playing any games. None of that waiting to text first. You act on your feelings. You want to talk to him, so you do. You want to be kind and generous and give him your all, and you do.

And as soon as you do, that's when everything changes. You've had it in your mind that things will become serious with this person because the feelings are all there. Everything feels right. Everything feels like it's supposed to. So what's the problem?

He slows down on his text messages but still keeps you hanging on. You're confused. You don't know what the hell the problem is. Why did things drop off? Does he think you're too invested too quick? Is he bored? Could it be that he's over it because the chase is over? You blame it on yourself. You sit home and stare at your ceiling: What did I do to make this happen? you think.

But I'm here to tell you it's not your fault.


First of all, props to you for not playing games and props to you for staying true to yourself. Life is too short to hold back your feelings. Maybe the timing was wrong. Maybe he's looking for something different. Maybe this is the universe's way of telling you to run and fast.

There have been too many times when I've been in this situation. I'm always faced with the question of what am I doing wrong? It's taken my heart getting broken multiple times to realize that I am not the issue. Me being myself and giving my all to someone I feel deserves it is not the issue. The issue is the modern world and 100 other things in the universe that may be against this relationship. Timing, compatibility, fate.

To the girl who falls too hard, too fast. Stop blaming yourself. Don't give up. Never stop loving with your all. Never stop acting on your feelings. If it feels right, it probably is and if it feels wrong, it probably is. Sometimes, yes, we get blindsided by love or lust, but there are feelings that we have to pay attention to. Always remember to follow your gut.

Part of the problem is the modern world and how dating has changed so much. No one wants to put labels on anything nowadays, so it's a hard time for the girl who falls too hard, too fast. You're ready for someone to commit when you feel the time and person is exactly who/what it should be. But that's not what people are doing now. Most people have just fallen accustomed to it, but you? No, you want for sure. You want there to be no questions.

To the girl who falls too hard, too fast. Stop and take a breath. If you're feeling there's something questionable about the potential relationship, listen to that. Fall hard and fall fast, but be prepared. Be prepared for someone to not reciprocate those feelings. Be prepared to be hurt. But just know that it will teach you lessons. It will make you stronger. It will teach you things that will lead you closer to finding (or being found by someone) who falls too hard, too fast for you.
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Why You Can Thank Technology For How Shitty Modern Dating Really Is

Monday, August 1, 2016


At this point in our lives, obviously technology is almost mandatory. Phones, televisions, computers, what the hell would we do without them?

Technology proves to be great when it comes to making many things in life easier, but they've also mastered making certain aspects of life a whole hell of a lot more complicated and confusing.

Recently, a friend of mine and her boyfriend got into an argument over something stupid and it ended up lasting days. She sat around and wondered why the hell her boyfriend wasn't cooperating with her or making an effort himself to solve the issue at hand. When they finally got a chance to talk, she realized he had looked through her cell phone and saw a conversation with a friend of hers telling her how shitty of a boyfriend he was being.

Of course, if he hadn't seen that text conversation, they probably would have talked it out much earlier but because he was so hurt by the text, it took him longer to talk about the issue face-to-face.

That got me thinking: Technology has completely ruined modern dating and relationships.

I can only imagine what life was like before texting, cell phones, and all the other things modern technology has graced us with. It sounds insane to even think about how people communicated with each other back then. I mean they had to physically go to that person's home or meet with them to make plans or talk. Baffling.

"I can only imagine what life was like before texting, cell phones, and all the other things modern technology has graced us with. "


And we all know that with technology, comes social media as well and that has turned into a monster of its own. Now instead of just having text messages and phone calls to fight over, there's Facebook comments, Instagram likes, Twitter favorites and dating apps.

For those people who are in a relationship, there's a good chance that social media has come up at one point in your relationship. "Why don't you post any photos of us together?", "Why did you like that girls photo?", "How do you know that person you just followed?".

Obviously, worries like this are a sign of bigger problems in your relationship, but think about it: Questions like this wouldn't even exist if it weren't for technology.

For those of you not in a relationship, good luck (myself included). In a world where apps like Tinder and Bumble have been downloaded onto just about every millennial's phone, you can bet that people aren't putting in as much effort into finding someone. And guess what? It's because technology does it for them. They don't have to. 

These dating apps only make it more simple and convenient to match with random people who may be completely wrong for you—especially considering the fact that many people use the app just to hook up or simply because they're bored. 

It's harder to weed out those who aren't you're type because you're basically judging someone off a small description their friend could have written for them and the photos they choose. You won't be able to tell if there are sparks between you, you can't see body language, it's all a shot in the dark.

"Dating sites and apps simply can't be trusted."


Even if you do meet someone, who the hell even knows if they're a real human being or if they're using photos from 4 years ago. People are usually very different from the way they present themselves online. Dating sites and apps simply can't be trusted. Call me old fashion but I'd much rather meet someone by chance than by swiping right to the photo of them that's been photoshopped or edited.

Because of how accessible everyone now is with the invention of more advanced technology, it also leads people to being a lot more self-conscious about their relationship. For instance, when your SO just stops answering for, say, an hour, you're instantly stuck wondering Was it something I said? What did I do? when it could simply be a matter of their phone dying or them taking a shower. It's almost led us to believe that someone who isn't attached to their technology 24/7 is not to be trusted. It leads you to start making up scenarios in your head and overthinking things.

Believe me, I'm no angel. My phone is connected to me 24/7. I look at people who do those "7 Days Without Technology" challenges and snicker at the idea. But after seeing certain people in certain situations and even taking a look at how technology has negatively impacted my love life, I'll definitely be making it a point to lower my usage and think logically and realistically when I wonder what whoever is on the other side is doing. 
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6 Things You Need To Remind Yourself When Leaving A Bad Relationship

Friday, July 29, 2016


Unfortunately, not all relationships are meant to work out. Some are meant to teach us lessons, some are meant to make us stronger and others are meant to help us find ourselves.

They can’t — and won’t — always be perfect.

With that said, some of those no-so-perfect relationships might be heartbreaking, devastating and just bad in general.

No matter how good or bad your relationship might have been, leaving it can always be hard. As much as you may know it’s not meant to last, it’s still a huge life change. And any change can be a challenge to get used to and be happy with.

When you’re going back out into the big, bad world of being a single lady again, there are a few things you need to remind yourself that will make you feel a bit better about what you’re going through:

1. A relationship should make your life happier and easier.

No matter who broke up with whom, it’s hard to go through a breakup. Dealing with breaking someone else’s heart or having your own heart broken is difficult, but sometimes necessary. Remember there’s a reason you aren’t in that relationship anymore.

Many times, things just get too hard, too heated or too complicated. While it may be hard to say goodbye, sometimes it’s necessary, especially when a healthy relationship should be just that: healthy. It should be easy.

Being in a relationship should make your life happier. Your companion should add something positive to your life.

Sometimes, the bad starts to outweigh the good, and then it’s time for it to come to an end. It might be hard, but sometimes it’s for the best.

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6 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Turn Your Summer Fling Into A LDR


For some reason, summer seems to be the most romantic of all the seasons.

Maybe it’s the great vibes we get from the freedom that summer brings. Maybe it’s the fact that there are endless possibilities of exciting events and parties to attend. Either way, there’s just something sexy in the air during the summer.

That being said, we’ve all experienced that one summer when you met someone you instantly hit it off with. The two of you spent the romantic summer nights cuddling by the fire, splashing each other in the pool and drinking margaritas on the beach.

For those three months of the warm sun beating on your skin, everything seems perfect. It’s almost as though time has stopped and you’re just being young, wild and free.

That is, until the weather starts to cool down and fall is upon you.

Then, you’re left with the big question: Where the hell is this summer romance headed? Especially when you and your summer fling live in different places.

You start to ask yourself whether or not this “relationship” is just that or if it’s just a summer fling. You might be someone who wants it to go further or you might have just been having fun.

When you’re faced with what seems like the question of the summer, there are a few things to consider that might make your decision to make your relationship into an official long-distance relationship or not a bit easier.
1. What kind of plans do you make together?

Think about the type of plans the two of you made together. Did you spend more time in groups or separately? Did he always want to be out drinking with a huge group of friends? Was he cool spending some downtime with you staying in for the night and enjoying a nice night of Netflix?

To me, it’s important that someone I’m about to enter a relationship with — especially if it would be long distance — will make time for just the two of us as well as balancing time with friends and hanging out as a group.

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How To Make Yourself A Priority If You’re Always In A Relationship


I’m the girl who always has a boyfriend. What usually goes down is this: I’ll be in a relationship for a while, things don’t work out, we end up separating and then I’m instantly on the search for a new dude.

I always had this idea in my mind that being single meant being sad and alone, and since I (obviously) never wanted to feel that way, it was always my mission to find someone to change that.

Obviously, that hadn’t worked out very well because I kept jumping intorelationships that clearly weren’t right for me. I only realized this after I’d gone through the ringer with said shitty relationship and ended up getting hurt. I was in a constant cycle of getting hurt, and then being temporarily happy.

It took me a while to finally break the cycle. When my ex and I broke up a few months back, I decided it was time to really focus on myself and make it my mission to have fun, get to know myself, travel, take chances and enjoy what life has to offer. I decided I wouldn’t look for a boyfriend. I’d just let things happen naturally.

There are a few things that helped down the road:

Reconnecting with friends helped.

I decided I was going to try my hardest to get all the family and friend relationships in my life in check first. I started to spend my time having Friday night card games with my family and heading out for nights of dancing with my closest friends, whom I had neglected during my past relationship. I did this to show them how much I really care about them and love being with them.

Being with these important people really helped me break the cycle because they filled the void of love and companionship I longed for. It made me realize that a friendship is just as valuable as a relationship, when it comes to support and encouragement.

Since I’m also someone who just wants to care for another person, I started to do this in my friendships, and because of this, my friendships have never been stronger and more valuable to me.

I also took the time to mend a connection with someone who was really important to me: my former best friend. After having a falling out and not speaking a word to each other for years, I knew in my heart that I couldn’t move forward in my life if I didn’t apologize to her and get all my feelings about our falling out on the table. Turns out she was feeling the same way, and again, our friendship has never been stronger.

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The Difference Between Having Feelings and Respect When It Comes to a Hookup


Let’s start off with a little history. I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m a serial dater. I’m the girl who always has a boyfriend. I get into relationships that last for years. As soon as the relationship ends, it’s just another couple months before a new one blooms and then I’m there for a few more years. My friends sh*t on me constantly for it.

The second I get out of a relationship, I’m in full-on single girl mode. I’m counting down the minutes until Friday night, heading out for drinks with friends and tearing up the dance floor every chance I get. I turn into the ultimate single girl and the only thing on my mind is having fun and meeting new people.

The only issue is, I’m terrible at meeting new people. As soon as I’m out of a relationship, I head back to texting the same guys I know will be around and will give me the attention I’m craving. Even when I’m at the bar, I’ve never been the type of girl to introduce myself to potential suitors. I’ll wait for them to introduce themselves and when they don’t, I leave feeling defeated.

My boyfriend of almost two years and I just recently ended our relationship. I told myself that because I’m 22 and haven’t lived my life nearly to its full potential, that I’d stay single for at least the summer to experience being in my 20s independently.

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