Why You Can Thank Technology For How Shitty Modern Dating Really Is
At this point in our lives, obviously technology is almost mandatory. Phones, televisions, computers, what the hell would we do without them?
Technology proves to be great when it comes to making many things in life easier, but they've also mastered making certain aspects of life a whole hell of a lot more complicated and confusing.
Recently, a friend of mine and her boyfriend got into an argument over something stupid and it ended up lasting days. She sat around and wondered why the hell her boyfriend wasn't cooperating with her or making an effort himself to solve the issue at hand. When they finally got a chance to talk, she realized he had looked through her cell phone and saw a conversation with a friend of hers telling her how shitty of a boyfriend he was being.
Of course, if he hadn't seen that text conversation, they probably would have talked it out much earlier but because he was so hurt by the text, it took him longer to talk about the issue face-to-face.
That got me thinking: Technology has completely ruined modern dating and relationships.
I can only imagine what life was like before texting, cell phones, and all the other things modern technology has graced us with. It sounds insane to even think about how people communicated with each other back then. I mean they had to physically go to that person's home or meet with them to make plans or talk. Baffling.
I can only imagine what life was like before texting, cell phones, and all the other things modern technology has graced us with. It sounds insane to even think about how people communicated with each other back then. I mean they had to physically go to that person's home or meet with them to make plans or talk. Baffling.
"I can only imagine what life was like before texting, cell phones, and all the other things modern technology has graced us with. "
And we all know that with technology, comes social media as well and that has turned into a monster of its own. Now instead of just having text messages and phone calls to fight over, there's Facebook comments, Instagram likes, Twitter favorites and dating apps.
For those people who are in a relationship, there's a good chance that social media has come up at one point in your relationship. "Why don't you post any photos of us together?", "Why did you like that girls photo?", "How do you know that person you just followed?".
Obviously, worries like this are a sign of bigger problems in your relationship, but think about it: Questions like this wouldn't even exist if it weren't for technology.
For those of you not in a relationship, good luck (myself included). In a world where apps like Tinder and Bumble have been downloaded onto just about every millennial's phone, you can bet that people aren't putting in as much effort into finding someone. And guess what? It's because technology does it for them. They don't have to.
These dating apps only make it more simple and convenient to match with random people who may be completely wrong for you—especially considering the fact that many people use the app just to hook up or simply because they're bored.
It's harder to weed out those who aren't you're type because you're basically judging someone off a small description their friend could have written for them and the photos they choose. You won't be able to tell if there are sparks between you, you can't see body language, it's all a shot in the dark.
"Dating sites and apps simply can't be trusted."
Even if you do meet someone, who the hell even knows if they're a real human being or if they're using photos from 4 years ago. People are usually very different from the way they present themselves online. Dating sites and apps simply can't be trusted. Call me old fashion but I'd much rather meet someone by chance than by swiping right to the photo of them that's been photoshopped or edited.
Because of how accessible everyone now is with the invention of more advanced technology, it also leads people to being a lot more self-conscious about their relationship. For instance, when your SO just stops answering for, say, an hour, you're instantly stuck wondering Was it something I said? What did I do? when it could simply be a matter of their phone dying or them taking a shower. It's almost led us to believe that someone who isn't attached to their technology 24/7 is not to be trusted. It leads you to start making up scenarios in your head and overthinking things.
Believe me, I'm no angel. My phone is connected to me 24/7. I look at people who do those "7 Days Without Technology" challenges and snicker at the idea. But after seeing certain people in certain situations and even taking a look at how technology has negatively impacted my love life, I'll definitely be making it a point to lower my usage and think logically and realistically when I wonder what whoever is on the other side is doing.
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