How To Make Yourself A Priority If You’re Always In A Relationship

How To Make Yourself A Priority If You’re Always In A Relationship

• Friday, July 29, 2016

I’m the girl who always has a boyfriend. What usually goes down is this: I’ll be in a relationship for a while, things don’t work out, we end up separating and then I’m instantly on the search for a new dude.

I always had this idea in my mind that being single meant being sad and alone, and since I (obviously) never wanted to feel that way, it was always my mission to find someone to change that.

Obviously, that hadn’t worked out very well because I kept jumping intorelationships that clearly weren’t right for me. I only realized this after I’d gone through the ringer with said shitty relationship and ended up getting hurt. I was in a constant cycle of getting hurt, and then being temporarily happy.

It took me a while to finally break the cycle. When my ex and I broke up a few months back, I decided it was time to really focus on myself and make it my mission to have fun, get to know myself, travel, take chances and enjoy what life has to offer. I decided I wouldn’t look for a boyfriend. I’d just let things happen naturally.

There are a few things that helped down the road:

Reconnecting with friends helped.

I decided I was going to try my hardest to get all the family and friend relationships in my life in check first. I started to spend my time having Friday night card games with my family and heading out for nights of dancing with my closest friends, whom I had neglected during my past relationship. I did this to show them how much I really care about them and love being with them.

Being with these important people really helped me break the cycle because they filled the void of love and companionship I longed for. It made me realize that a friendship is just as valuable as a relationship, when it comes to support and encouragement.

Since I’m also someone who just wants to care for another person, I started to do this in my friendships, and because of this, my friendships have never been stronger and more valuable to me.

I also took the time to mend a connection with someone who was really important to me: my former best friend. After having a falling out and not speaking a word to each other for years, I knew in my heart that I couldn’t move forward in my life if I didn’t apologize to her and get all my feelings about our falling out on the table. Turns out she was feeling the same way, and again, our friendship has never been stronger.

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